This or That Questions: 200 Best (Food, Lifestyle, Couples & More)

What Are This or That Questions?

This or That is one of the simplest and most versatile conversation games: you present two options and everyone must choose one. No "both," no "neither," no long explanations required — just a fast, honest pick. The constraint is what makes it interesting. Choosing between two imperfect options reveals preferences, values, and personality in a way that open-ended questions often do not.

This or That questions work in almost any group setting: first dates, friend groups, office icebreakers, road trips, and family game nights. The categories below are designed to mix light, fun questions with a few that spark real conversation. Skip any that do not fit your group and linger on the ones that do.

How to Use This or That Questions

Spin our free This or That Wheel to pick a side, or just read a question out loud and have everyone answer at once — no neutral answers, no overthinking. Below are 200+ questions sorted by category so you always have a fresh one ready.

Food & Drink This or That Questions

1. Coffee or Tea?
2. Pizza or Tacos?
3. Sweet or Savory?
4. Breakfast or Dinner?
5. Cook at home or Eat out?
6. Chocolate or Vanilla?
7. Fast food or Fine dining?
8. Cake or Pie?
9. Hot food or Cold food?
10. Soda or Juice?
11. Burgers or Sushi?
12. Chips or Cookies?
13. Pasta or Rice?
14. Spicy or Mild?
15. Ice cream or Frozen yogurt?
16. Salad or Soup?
17. Pancakes or Waffles?
18. Bagel or Muffin?
19. Wine or Beer?
20. Buffet or Sit-down restaurant?

Lifestyle & Personality This or That Questions

1. Early bird or Night owl?
2. City or Countryside?
3. Introvert or Extrovert?
4. Planner or Spontaneous?
5. Minimalist or Maximalist?
6. Work hard or Work smart?
7. Routine or Variety?
8. Logic or Emotion?
9. Leader or Follower?
10. Risk taker or Play it safe?
11. Stay home or Go out?
12. Optimist or Realist?
13. Talker or Listener?
14. Busy or Relaxed life?
15. Fame or Privacy?
16. Save money or Spend on experiences?
17. Neat freak or Organized chaos?
18. Big goals or Small consistent wins?
19. Quality over quantity, or quantity over quality?
20. Comfort zone or Constant challenge?

Travel & Adventure This or That Questions

1. Beach or Mountains?
2. Summer or Winter?
3. Road trip or Flight?
4. Backpack or Luxury hotel?
5. Explore new places or Revisit favorites?
6. Solo travel or Group travel?
7. Hot climate or Cold climate?
8. City break or Nature retreat?
9. Plan every detail or Wing it?
10. Tourist spots or Hidden gems?
11. Camping or Hotel?
12. Window seat or Aisle seat?
13. Passport full of stamps or One favorite place revisited?
14. Adventure sports or Relaxing on the beach?
15. Travel with friends or Travel with family?

Entertainment & Tech This or That Questions

1. Movies or TV Shows?
2. Books or Podcasts?
3. Music or Silence?
4. Streaming or Cinema?
5. Gaming or Reading?
6. Phone or Laptop?
7. Social media or No social media?
8. Comedy or Drama?
9. Headphones or Speakers?
10. Digital or Physical books?
11. Binge-watch or One episode a week?
12. Horror or Comedy movies?
13. Spotify or YouTube Music?
14. Live concert or Music festival?
15. Sequel or Original?

Relationships & Social This or That Questions

1. Few close friends or Many acquaintances?
2. Text or Call?
3. Big party or Intimate dinner?
4. Give gifts or Receive gifts?
5. Say what you think or Keep the peace?
6. Long relationship or Fresh start?
7. Spend time with family or Friends?
8. Public display of affection or Keep it private?
9. Date night in or Date night out?
10. Serious conversations or Light-hearted chat?
11. Surprise gifts or Planned gifts?
12. Meet the parents early or Wait a while?
13. Long-distance friendship or Lose touch?
14. Group chat or One-on-one messages?
15. Plan dates together or Take turns surprising each other?

Work & Ambition This or That Questions

1. Work from home or Office?
2. Stable career or Dream career?
3. More money or More free time?
4. Be the boss or Be the expert?
5. Start your own business or Work for someone else?
6. Recognition or Anonymity?
7. Fast success or Slow and steady?
8. Creative work or Analytical work?
9. Team project or Solo project?
10. Frequent feedback or Work independently?
11. Big company or Startup?
12. Promotion with more stress or Same role with more balance?
13. Passion project or Paycheck job?
14. Remote team or In-person team?
15. Open floor plan or Private office?

Random & Funny This or That Questions

1. Cats or Dogs?
2. Superpower: fly or be invisible?
3. Always cold or Always hot?
4. No sleep or No food for a day?
5. Speak every language or Play every instrument?
6. Live in the past or Future?
7. Be famous for 5 minutes or Respected forever?
8. Always win or Always learn?
9. No phone for a week or No food for a day?
10. Time travel to the past or Future?
11. Read minds or Predict the future?
12. Be a giant or Be tiny?
13. Never use social media again or Never watch another movie?
14. Lose your sense of smell or Sense of taste?
15. Be hilarious or Be brilliant?

This or That Questions for Couples

1. Cuddle on the couch or Go out dancing?
2. Cook together or Order in?
3. Big wedding or Small elopement?
4. Save for a house or Save for travel?
5. Morning person or Night person partner?
6. Plan the future or Live in the moment?
7. Handwritten notes or Text messages?
8. Movie night in or Date night out?
9. Talk it out immediately or Take space first?
10. Surprise trip or Planned vacation?

Tips for a Great This or That Game

• No neutral answers: The whole point is forcing a choice — resist "both" or "neither."
• Ask "why": The explanation is usually more interesting than the answer itself.
• Mix categories: Jump between food, lifestyle, and funny questions to keep energy up.
• Use the wheel: Spin our This or That Wheel to randomly decide who answers first each round.

Why a Forced Choice Reveals More Than an Open Question

The mechanic behind This or That is the same one that makes forced-choice psychological surveys useful: when someone has to pick between two options rather than rate each independently or answer freely, they can't hedge. An open question like "what kind of food do you like?" invites a safe, socially acceptable answer. "Pizza or Tacos?" forces an actual preference to surface, and often a quick, half-second hesitation or an immediate confident answer tells you more about how strongly someone feels than the answer itself. That's also why the follow-up "why?" question tends to produce the most interesting conversation in the whole game — the choice is fast, but the reasoning behind it usually isn't.

Adapting the Game for Different Group Sizes

For a small group (2-4 people), go through questions conversationally, letting each person share their answer and a brief reason before moving on. For a larger group (5+), consider a quicker format — everyone answers simultaneously by pointing to a side of the room or holding up a card, which keeps the pace fast and avoids the game dragging as more people wait their turn. For couples specifically, the questions in the dedicated couples category work well as a standalone shorter session focused on planning and values rather than mixed in with the lighter food and lifestyle categories.

This or That as a Getting-to-Know-Someone Tool

Beyond party entertainment, This or That works surprisingly well as a structured way to learn about someone new — a new coworker, a new friend group, or an early-stage romantic interest. The forced-choice format covers more ground faster than open conversation because each question takes seconds rather than minutes, so you can move through a wide range of topics (food, values, lifestyle, planning style) in the time it would take to have one deep open-ended conversation. It also lowers the stakes of asking something slightly personal — "planner or spontaneous?" feels like a game question, while "are you someone who plans everything?" can feel like an interview question, even though they're asking the same thing.

Turning Answers Into Follow-Up Conversation

The questions above work best as a starting point rather than the whole conversation. When someone gives a fast, confident answer, that's usually a settled preference worth a brief acknowledgment and moving on. When someone hesitates or says "it depends," that hesitation is often more revealing than either fixed answer would have been — and it's worth pausing to ask what it depends on. Building this instinct — noticing which answers deserve a follow-up question and which don't — is what separates a memorable This or That session from a mechanical run-through of a list.

Writing Your Own This or That Questions

Once a group has worked through the categories above, the best next step is questions tailored to your specific group rather than reaching for a generic list again. A good homemade This or That question follows a simple test: are both options genuinely appealing (or genuinely different) to most people in the group, and can it be answered in under three seconds without needing a caveat? "Coffee or tea" passes this test easily. "Would you rather have unlimited money but no friends, or friends but be broke" fails it — that's not a quick preference, it's a values dilemma better suited to the Would You Rather format instead. Keeping questions genuinely light and fast is what makes This or That work as a warm-up game rather than a heavy discussion prompt.

This or That vs. Would You Rather: Choosing the Right Format

These two games look similar but serve different purposes. This or That works with simple, comparable preferences (pizza or tacos, coffee or tea) where either answer is equally valid and the fun is in the fast pace. Would You Rather typically presents two scenarios rather than two simple options, often involving a trade-off or a slightly uncomfortable choice (would you rather lose your sense of smell or your sense of taste), which slows the pace down and shifts the focus toward reasoning and discussion. If your group wants energy and speed, stick with This or That. If your group wants deeper conversation and doesn't mind a slower pace, mix in some Would You Rather questions from our Would You Rather Wheel.

Using This or That to Break the Ice at the Start of an Event

The very first few minutes of any gathering — whether it's a party, a classroom activity, or a team meeting — tend to be the most awkward, before people have found a natural conversational rhythm. This or That is particularly well suited to filling that specific window because it requires zero setup, no materials, and gives everyone an easy, low-risk way to participate immediately rather than sitting quietly while the "official" activity gets organized. Starting with three or four rapid-fire food or lifestyle questions before moving into anything more structured tends to warm a room up faster than an announcement or a formal introduction round, since it gets people talking and laughing together before anyone has to say anything more revealing than "pizza."

Ready to Play?

Use our free This or That Wheel to spin through these questions, or try the dilemma version with our Would You Rather Wheel.

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